Put Into Practice - The perceptual Process

I remember going for my visa interview, (when i got admission to come study at Dixie). the day before my interview, my mom told me to dress in suit and i should cut my hair, and i was like "why would i do that" and i told my mom that the person who is going to interview me is an American and he/she doesn't care how i dressed or how high my hair was. so i told her i wasn't gonna do it.then she told me to do whatever i wanted. On that faithful day of my interview, the man that interviewed me took like two minutes to look at my appearance the the interview started. After i was granted the visa the consular called me back and told me he almost denied me the visa when he saw my appearance but his instinct told he to go on with the interview and he saw that i knew what i was doing. my point is that you don't jump into conclusion or assumption .so try to speak to the person and know the type of person he or she is. "DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER".  

Disclosures

       I define disclosure as making a kept secrete known. I rarely tell people things about me and I am sure I am not the only one like this on earth. There are many reasons why people are afraid to tell people secretes and or disclose. Some of the reasons are as follows. 

Shame

     Everyone at some point in life has done something that they are not proud of and if they could live their whole life without anyone knowing about it, they will absolutely love it. These are things that are embarrassing and things that if you tell anyone it might lead to another reason for being afraid to disclose, Low self esteem.

Low self esteem

    Some people have secrets that they know if someone else ever knew of it, they will begin to look at them differently and treat them differently. I had a friend in high school he had been part of out set for like three years. One day we got to find out that he had HIV. The moment the news circulated and everyone knew about it i began to notice that he was treated different. People won't hold his hand, people won't share cups or plates with him. In a way you can't blame them for treated him that way as they... we (yes we) were ignorant kids that didn't know much at the time. He noticed the ostracism and he was shortly withdrawn from the school by his parents. This leads to the next reason which is ostracism and miscommunication.

Ostracism
    Ostracism is an execution from a society or group. things your friends know about you that they didn't expect  could be one of the reasons for this. when you disclose to your friends some of them might want to kick you out of the friendship group. Nobody whats to not have friends so this will be a reason for them to not disclose.

 There are many other reasons why people fear to disclose. People should learn to understand the fact that people have things that they've done that they are not proud of and they probably wont do it if they could go to the past. I know a couple of people I can disclose to. the person I tell all my secretes is my childhood friend and that's because he tells me too.